Hey...I like Ice Cream.

Having been known to hold their 'free 30 minute' consultation meetings at Baskin-Robbins the law firm Ditcher, Quick & Hyde Divorce Lawyers may be on to something

Get away from the mirror! Aye say Aye say ... get away from the mirror. And put down that half gallon of ice cream! :)

Valentine's Day - The one day where you can be made to feel joyfully complete or suspiciously alone. All in or on the outside looking in. There are 2 yearly celebrations where relationship scrutiny is at its sharpest - Christmas and Valentine's Day. At Christmas, being around family and friends can carry the lonesome load but come V-Day, youre on your own. We have two choices- Defend our current status with an all-knowing smile or stare into a mirror and let the self-inflicted, mental "Why am I alone?" beat-down commence. Personally, I like to stand in front of the mirror and watch myself eat an entire box of chocolates. Once Ive gone from "oh yummy" to plain yuck, I'm pretty much over the Valentines Day thing... Happy Valentine's Day y'all...! >m<

Now HG13, my post is merely one view, one opinion. I dont preach nor print the gospel...I leave that to others more knowin. If you believe me to be negative on the subject, that's just negative thinkin... Seein as youve singled me out(again) - I suggest you consider a member's "point of view" posted a few pages back: "So my advice is that perhaps you should respond with a safety net in mind... you may find it opens a whole new world of vulnerability and creative realness to your talents... besides this is the age of protection awareness. Take aim, fire and I hope you can nail your target." Not sure if it's "black or white' advice but it does sound pertinent to your outlook and it is... damn awful colorful...>m<

Monty, must we forever see the world in black and white? I laugh because my world is one in which I forever see hope and the opportunity to grow. A world that I have the ability to add the essential elements to make it glide like a well oiled action in a gun. Relocating to add to my life and enrich it is more than welcome in my view. Might I point out some cyber relationships outlast many traditional. Some of us, know what the big picture holds. Putting unrealized fears out there only holds back those who are afraid to brave life itself. I have this one life to make complete and I have a goal that is in sight.

Uh oh, the distance factor. The ultimate reality equalizer of all things cyber-dating. Your last chance way station before doing something really great or discovering your judgement process is in need of a serious overhaul. But lets back up a minute. Folks move to different parts of the country every day for a multitude of reasons. Mostly simple seasons- Employment, change of scenery, better life, nearer to family etc. OK, maybe a little complexity is attached but the move is a one on one project in that you control where youre headed and what you plan to do when you get there. If you study Pilgrimology, its an age old activity. But relocating because of a potential cyber-relationship, now that's a horse of a different color. Because the relocation is based solely with someone in mind, the success or failure of the move is going to depend entirely on the success or failure of the relationship and that may be something you have no control over. East, west, north or south, just make sure you keep the horse trailer - at least for a while...>m<

Tucker... That last sentence hits it spot-on. Well said. :)

In my case my job dictates where I live. Owning and enjoying horses require a good job, independent wealth or better luck than I have with lottery tickets. I love the west myself. I hunt and horseback ride in Colorado, but really don't want to live there. I think you find different geographic areas provide some good and some bad. It all comes down to what fills our dreams and hearts. Dan

In response to skysblue comment - absolutely! I am from the Midwest (Missouri) and have no desire to ever return to live that direction, further east or south... nope. Headed west 35 years ago and have never looked back.I'm plannin' on taking my last breath in The West. My experience has taught me that I am geographically sensitive so yes, your environment can be more powerful than a relationship. (At least in my case.) So that's one person's opinion. What are others thoughts on where they live and how it pertains to a relationship with the opposite gender?